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Does Yaoi exploit gay men and do we care?

Wow, what a question to start off with when I’ve been absent pretty much all summer, huh? From what I’ve seen out there in author-land, there seems to be some polarizing views on what Yaoi and M/M romance written by and for a female audience (yes, I know many men like it, too, and I think I’ve already covered this ground in “Yaoi versus M/M Romance: What’s the Difference“) should be and how it may or may not affect the gay community.

Let’s take the first part of this, shall we? Does Yaoi exploit gay men? Our characters in Yaoi fall into seme and uke and in many instances, let’s face it, the uke is a chick with a dick. Are there real gay men out there like that? I’d say certainly. While many lesbians (and yep, I do know quite a few) can sometimes bend their female gender to imitate a man quite well, I’ve seen it done just as well with the opposite sex. Wait, what did I just say? Some lesbians act more like guys than guys and some gay men act more like women than women do;) (Just like in the hetero world, LOL) OMG, I think I’ve just started a topic for another day – gender bending and men in dresses, LOL. So, if there are real gay men out there that act like cute little ukes, by having characters like this are we exploiting them? Hell no. Am I exploiting dogs when I have one in a story and it barks and wags it’s tail? Okay, maybe that’s a bit extreme. Even if there weren’t any gay men who behave like a typical uke, does this mean we shouldn’t write about them? Again, do dragons and unicorns exist? And there are stories written about them all the time.

Yes, this is Mana, a guy. I have no idea if he's really gay. Care to take bets?

But on a deeper level, are we female readers and writers of Yaoi and M/M romance  exploiting gay men because we’re turning them into some twisted fantasy we have about gay men and them getting it on? Personally, I find this ridiculous, too. We may make them and like them to be a bit more emotional than a real guy and we may want them to fall in love more than real gay men do, but I’ve also heard from real gay men that these stories can be inspirational to them. And about the emotional part? Boys and girls are born pretty much the same, it’s our culture that forces boys to repress their emotions. Studies show that our culture is finally changing and it’s getting more and more acceptable for men to shed a tear or two. What’s the big deal anyway?

What I’d really like to know is why it seems to be okay with the lesbian community and especially our culture at large for straight men to watch lesbian porn, but, OMG, you’re a straight woman and you write gay romance stories??? It seems like every time I see some stupid ad for porn aimed at men, it’s two hot chicks getting it on. And have you seen late night HBO and such? The soft porn ALWAYS has two hot chicks getting it on. Not that there is anything wrong with that – just to be clear. I’d just like to see more, well you all know what I want to see, wink, wink.

So no, I don’t think Yaoi or M/M romance exploits anyone (maybe the fangirls, LOL). And for that last part – do we care? Of course we do, don’t be stupid. Reading and writing Yaoi and M/M romance has helped me to understand the trials of being gay and lesbian throughout history and today. My first book, A Summer without Rain, was critiqued by a man whose son is gay. He told me reading my manuscript actually helped him to understand and empathize better with his son. And guess what? I’m proud of that.

New Home – Grand Opening and Contest!

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Now that I have your attention*snicker*  Hi everyone and welcome to my new and hopefully better blog and website. I’ll be blogging here about the same things I did over at House of Manlove, namely Anime, Yoai, M/M Romance and JRock and I believe you can subscribe to my blog and get an RSS feed if you’re so inclined;) Of course, I’m still working on the bells and whistles of trying to make it easy to subscribe…

If any of you are wondering, yep, I did this all by myself! I do have an electrical engineering degree, so it wasn’t too much of a stretch to figure it all out. Anyhow, this new updated version has fun things like an Anime News Network Feed, information on what’s in the works for me writing wise and lots of excerpts;) I’m thinking about doing some sort of sign-up subscription thingy and then letting people sign up to see things not open to the general public – like the first three chapters of all my books, free reads, and maybe some naked Yaoi pics (I’ve always wanted to do this, but never had the time). So what do you think of that? Is there anything else you’d like to see on the site or in the blog? I’d love to make this a bit more interactive and maybe schedule some chats (I think I saw a chat plug-in somewhere).

As it says above, this is the “Grand Opening” and as such, I am giving away a free ebook of your choice (one of mine, of course) to one lucky person who leaves me a comment on this post. I’ll be drawing at random one week from today.

And by the way, what the heck happened to Yaoi Gallery? No more naked pics???

And, here’s a nice picture of some random and racy Yaoi art:)

My stupid comments are not working properly after I uploaded my old blog to this one 🙁 So just post your comments in the Guestbook for now until I fix it. Thanks!

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